We forgive on two levels, one on forgivable things and one on unforgivable things: you’ve done a forgivable thing to me, you insulted my cheesecake the other day, and I forgive you. But you broke up with me last month, and that’s unforgivable.
… I can’t forgive everybody. Personally, I can’t do it. People hurt me, and I keep it for a long time. There’s a separate word in Tibetan called tshig pa which means slow burning. I have tshig pa [spite], someone hurt me, I’ve got tshig pa. I don’t say anything, I still get up and give nice talks, and I’m very reasonable in class, and I can sit there and pretend to meditate, everybody thinks I am. But inside I have tshig pa. How can they do this to me? How can they do this to me? I’ll never forgive them.” —Geshe Michael Roach, 2010 the year of his divorce
I did not realize the intensity of GM’s bitterness toward me. He is a formidable enemy, especially when you do not even realize you have one.” —Christie McNally, 2013
You can’t get a glass of water in India, you can’t get a glass of water which you can drink. So here is this thing, you are looking at it, will this kill me, you see. And I am talking literal, you know. We [McNally and I] were very sick there and there’s nothing you can do, because the penicillin is bad too, you see, I am not kidding, I am not kidding. Maybe somebody in the factory wanted an extra 50 cents, they threw in some rat poison or something.” —Geshe Michael Roach, 2006
- Fact check Why did Geshe Michael’s secret marriage end in divorce?
- Self-delusion: a proof of concept Why did he give up on his method?
- Unforgiven Whom didn’t he forgive?
- Mission Implausible: “Coffee Meditation” and the Four-Step Method Can his 4-step method possibly work?
- Karma of Love and Breakups Why couldn’t he plant the seeds to hold his marriage together?
- An Eye for the Divine Did Geshe Michael Roach receive blessings from the “angels” in his life?
- Come Together: The Naked Truth When is it permissible for a monk in the Dalai Lama’s tradition to have a female partner?
It is regrettable that Geshe Michael Roach is now unsupportive of his ex-wife Christie McNally who previously taught by his side and whom he had viewed as the angel “Vajrayogini in the flesh.”